Well, it has been twelve weeks now since the Da Vinci Prostatectomy. Talk about a night and day difference between 4, 8 and 12 weeks. That should be expected.
If you are going through this, 12 weeks will certainly be a big step. 4 weeks was good, 8 weeks was better and 12 weeks is even better.
The big scar that was still hurting nearly three weeks ago has stabilized. It is still uncomfortable if I lean against a counter or something else against it, and it still painful when I do. It has been pretty stable, but I imagine over the next few months it will improve. I think it is just because it is in the spot right above the belly button compared to the rest that it is still painful.
My advice is to keep doing the Kegel exercises it will help most people eventually, but it is like exercising your biceps, you have to keep it up to keep your biceps strong. It is awfully tempting to just stop when continence is nearly all there, but the last few percent means, keep doing the Kegels – and they say it is like other exercise, keeping it up, keeps up your strength there.
I still have another 7+ weeks until I go back to Mayo for follow-ups, but given that I did a blood check myself with the ultra-sensitive PSA, I am hopeful that they will be positive on the prognosis front too.
It will be 3 months since the Da Vince prostate surgery in just a bit less than a week – 12 weeks/3 months, pretty close, but hopefully even that extra few days will make a difference.
Some of the surgeons will say 8 weeks is a good milestone, but after talking to others who have actually been through it, they say 12 to 18 months to fully recover. It is worse when the PAs say, “oh, 8 weeks”. I spoke with a Doctor over the weekend and he said to give yourself a year to feel nearly 100%. Sure, by 8 weeks and 12 weeks you feel much better than at any time before and you may feel 80%-90% of they way you did, but almost universally men have said they tire easier and that full healing takes a lot more time than 8-12 weeks from Da Vinci prostatectomy. I can only imagine that the “open prostatectomy” takes even more time to recover given the additional trauma to the body.
The big things for me at 12 weeks are:
1. Pathology – as said, was good as was my own ultra-sensitive PSA. It is a relief, but not enough. Mayo says it takes 9-12 months after a prostate cancer diagnosis (or other cancer no doubt) to mentally adjust to the new reality. It is a large adjustment to go through. When ads come on the radio for cancer treatments, I have to change the station because I don’t want to be constantly reminded since there is nothing else one can do. The oncology department indicated that a large portion of the adjustment for anything like that is neither quick nor simple and those who say otherwise are misinformed.
2. ED after Da Vinci prostatectomy isn’t perfect, but is acceptable so far with the Viagra regularly in order to help healing. Going from never having taken it, to taking it now on their direction is an adjustment. Healing takes time is the continual mantra.
3. Continence is 98% (difficult to quantify), but you still get the occasional drip upon occasion which is again just a time thing – supposedly. It is usually so-called “stress incontinence” when the bladder is full and you cough/sneeze/run or something. Thankfully it is not major like some people experience. It is still an issue and something that isn’t really a topic of conversation among friends.
4. Tiredness for me is still an issue 12 weeks after the Da Vinci robotic prostate surgery. It is probably the biggest one for me at 12 weeks. By evening I’m usually pretty tired. I have been working out in the morning, working during the day, but by the end of the day, it still takes a lot out of you. Like #3, it is more of a frustration factor where you go from it not being an issue to needing a nap at 5pm or something similar. The tiredness is just another reminder and consequently is frustrating to deal with.
Every week has been an improvement. There are the frequent reminders of how things have changed though. Stupid things like the radio ads I mentioned before. Tiredness. Frustration. Talking to people who have been through it describe it at first as a constant blaring radio which by 5 or 6 years has been reduced to just some background level.